Where is your soul calling you deeper?
This is the question.
Not “What’s my next move?”
Not ”What am I missing?”
But “What is already here, just waiting to be integrated?”
Your soul is calling, and what you’re seeking isn’t outside of you. It’s what’s already inside, just waiting to come forward.
Inspired by the land of duality, sjálf is my commitment to women who refuse to choose between ambition and embodiment, leadership and softness, strategy and soul.
This work is not about returning to an ‘authentic self,’ but integrating all of you so that nothing is exiled, and everything is available.
sjálf means "self" in Icelandic.
At the heart of sjálf is Self-Synthesis, a lived process that I guide women through in structured containers designed for depth, coherence, and embodied transformation.
Whether you're just beginning to sense the split or you're ready to collapse the gap entirely, there's a way in.
Ways to work together:
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Into The Deep
A series of sacred virtual gatherings for women diving heart first into embodied self-inquiry.
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1:1 Coaching
For the woman ready to hold herself with the same depth as her vision. Please note: I work with a limited number of 1:1 clients each year in exclusive packages.
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Workshops & Events
Ready to bring in a somatic, trauma-informed facilitator into your community, workshop, or event? Me too.
The women I work with aren’t unhealed.
They’ve done the therapy. Learned the language. Built awareness, tools, and insight. Many of them are leaders and entreprenuers, pioneering new ways of relating, moving, and grooving in their worlds.
And yet— her body says one thing, her mind argues another, and life keeps asking her to choose anyway.
This is the quiet tension of the post-healing era:
Knowing the truth, but living split from it.
My name is Iris 👋🏻
I am the mind and mirror behind sjálf.
I know what it is like to be on the never-ending healing path. To be a lifetime learner, always taking in more knowledge, tools, courses, and insight, yet still feeling a disconnect when it comes to actually living and leading from it. That’s where my work begins.
sjálf goes deeper than “coming home to yourself.” It asks what happens when you get there… and realize different parts of you are pulling in different directions.
This is where we move from insight into integration.
Not by force or mindset, but by working with what’s happening beneath the surface, so what you feel, know, and choose can finally move in the same direction.
This work begins in the body, and moves outward into how you live, lead, and make decisions.
Human accolades:
Certified breathwork facilitator with trauma-informed somatic training
Eldest daughter, lifelong writer, truth-teller, and empath. I’ve spent 30+ years alchemizing a childhood trauma story into a rich, fulfilling path of reminding others that healing is not your life purpose
A business coach and visionary with over a decade of experience in business operations, management & marketing
Launched a successful start-up in 2016, serving as the youngest (at 25 years old), sole person of color, and only woman on the board
A degree in Communication and Anthropology, with a concentration in marketing + an obsession with Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice
Mother to two young daughters who continually teach me the profound wisdom of presence
Whole woman
sjálf is the intersection of all these aspects of my life and work— a space devoted to integration, internal coherence, and the reclamation of wholeness. For women who are done collecting tools and ready to live from what they already know.
If you've been waiting for permission to stop learning and start living, this is it. The work is here.
What women are saying about our work together:
Iris’ superpower is an acute awareness for what is needed in the moment and how she adapts to it. She understands the mission and greater vision. She sees the deeper “why”.
N.M.
She just looks you in the eyes and you know, right away, that she sees you. She sees beyond whatever it is you're trying to prove or convince yourself. I open up. I get to be me. Our work together has shown me I am my own safe space.
Jennifer
Iris is the spark that you're looking for. She is supportive, motivating, and a joy to have. I no longer feel that I am alone.
Lisa T.
Thank you for helping me shine. Now I know, I am what it takes.
E.A.
Iris’ approach to breath and body connection is so refreshingly gentle and intuitive that I feel every woman should experience this work. In a fast-paced and busy world, this was a beautiful reprieve that provided the inner peace my body and soul had been craving.”
Rachele K.
You have this magical way of making the unseen in me SEEN. And it sets something in me on fire, every time!
Maria S.
Your work is so important. I won’t ever stop thanking you.
A.S.
You always end our sessions asking if I feel complete or if there's anything else on my mind, and I honestly don't think I've ever felt not complete. And I think that's because you're a magical empath who knows what's good with each of your clients, in the moments you share with them.
Andraya S.
Magic. Pure magic.
R.M.
Somatics. Self-Synthesis. Soul in full expression.